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When the Pain Lands in the Wrong Place.
There are times when what we’re feeling doesn’t belong where it lands. This can happen anytime in life, but it seems to show up more often when we’re in the middle space when something important has ended, and whatever comes next hasn’t yet taken shape. We feel Unsteady. Displaced. Untethered. And without quite realizing it, the emotional weight we’re carrying looks for somewhere to go. So, it spills sideways. We snap at the wrong people. We grow resentful in relationships t

Pam Givens
5 days ago2 min read


When Care Has Limits, and Why That Doesn’t Make Us Cold
There comes a point in many relationships, especially during times of strain or transition, when we realize something quietly unsettling: our care has edges. This isn’t only about caregiving in the traditional sense the kind shaped by aging parents, illness, or end-of-life responsibility where obligation and guilt are often built into the role. Those experiences carry their own weight. What I’m reflecting on here shows up more quietly, and often more confusingly, in friendshi

Pam Givens
Dec 26, 20253 min read


Part 2: How We Show Up for Others When They’re the Ones in Transition
Maybe real support isn’t measured by how much we say or how long we stay, but by the honesty of our presence when we do. We show up as we can — imperfect, human, carrying our own weather — and sometimes that is enough to remind each other that none of us is walking through change alone.

Pam Givens
Dec 14, 20255 min read


PART 1: WHAT HELPS, WHAT HURTS
Two-Part Series: How We Show Up for Each Other in Times of Change When life shifts — gently or all at once — we don’t always respond the way we think we will. Sometimes we pull inward. Sometimes we reach out. Sometimes we freeze for a while trying to understand what just happened. Change can surprise us like that. But what seems more universal is what comes after — the disorientation , the drifting, the slow search for something steady inside ourselves. That quiet longing to

Pam Givens
Dec 6, 20254 min read


The Shape We Take in Times of Change
We don’t all move through change the same way. Our temperament — the quiet rhythm we’re born with — shapes how we respond when life shifts beneath us. This post explores the tender ways introverts, extroverts, and ambiverts navigate uncertainty, and why honoring your natural pace is one of the kindest things you can do for yourself.

Pam Givens
Dec 1, 20252 min read


When Life Tilts: The Disorientation of Endings
Temperament, personality, and wiring shape how we move through endings. Some of us turn inward for quiet; others reach outward for connection. This post explores how introverts and extroverts experience the disorientation of change, and the quiet ways each of us finds our footing in the middle place.

Pam Givens
Nov 25, 20253 min read


Why Ambiguity Makes the Mind Anxious
The space between is often quiet on the outside — but inside, it can feel like a storm.

Pam Givens
Nov 18, 20253 min read


The Unease of Waiting in The Space Between
The space between doesn’t stay still. It moves, shifts, breathes — and sometimes tightens. One of the most difficult rhythms of this space is waiting.

Pam Givens
Nov 14, 20252 min read


How Do We Find Ourselves in The Space Between?
There comes a moment — sometimes quietly, sometimes with force — when something in our lives ends. A role, a relationship, a community, a routine, even an identity we’ve worn for years.

Pam Givens
Nov 14, 20252 min read
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